I expected that many of you would say that you struggle making male/masculine cards. I think we all do. But I must admit that I was really surprised at how many of you struggle with sympathy cards. While I wish I never had to send one I don't struggle with them at all. So I gave some thought to how I approach them in hopes that sharing that will help you....
1. I go for pretty and/or elegant. I don't believe that a sad occasion means that the card has to be subdued or downplayed. I actually intentionally go the other way -- not bright and flashy, but just... pretty! I tend to use appealing, soft colors.
2. I often have a sentiment about prayers or praying for them -- even if the recipient is not particularly religious. Regardless of whether they are a person of faith I am -- and the card says exactly what I am doing -- praying for them. I have not found anyone who was been anything but comforted by that, even if they are not prone to prayer themselves. I also have a number of stamps of Scripture passages that I think are particularly appropriate. I tend to have a very simple sentiment on the front and only handwritten thoughts on the inside.
3. Oh the inside... many of you struggle with what to say and boy that is hard. I found that I would say how sorry or sad I was, that I am praying that God would comfort them and or give them peace (I say what my prayer is for them essentially) , etc. Then what? Then I started doing something that makes these so much easier to write. I include a memory of the person in what I write. It might be.... "When I think of Joe I can't help but remember (and then talk about a fun or positive memory)" or describe some of their attributes... "I will always remember Joe as the person who always greeted me with a smile and never had a bad thing to say about anyone". Or say something I learned from them ... "Joe taught me the importance of making time for the people you love". Something personal and positive. If I haven't met them I might say "While I didn't know Joe I feel like I did from how you described him to me. I can tell that he was a very special man and very important to you". I think because it is positive and usually brings a smile to my face it sends warm loving thoughts to the person. Just an idea of what helps me.
As promised, at the retreat I went to this weekend I focused on Sympathy and masculine cards. (and a few others too that you will see over the coming days) I realized looking at them tonight that I had forgotten to take all of my Scripture stamps :-( so you don't see my usual sentiments on these... so much for what I usually do huh? Here is one...
Supplies: Basic Grey paper, May Arts Ribbon, Stamping up corner punch, Marvy scalloped punch, Stampendous Encouraging Words stamps set
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